I think, the fact that we perceive the world dualno & mdash is not news; through the opposite poles making, nevertheless, a whole. One of such dualities & mdash; conscious/unconscious. Another & mdash; men's/women's. And, as the man consciously defines himself as the man, it follows from this that in its unconscious there is a feminine, it is kind of paradoxical did not look. To the contrary, the woman in unconscious has a machismo. This idea is not new and belongs not to me. Into practice of psychology by the first it was entered by Carl Gustav Jung, having called these parties of human mentality & laquo; Анима» and & laquo; Анимус». & laquo; Анима» in Latin means also laquo; душа» and word & laquo; Анимус» & mdash; men's form of this word. Anima & mdash; this feminine in the man, and Animus & mdash; a machismo in the woman.
What simple thought & mdash; everything that is in your imaginations & mdash; it also is you. Otherwise from where it would undertake there? Most of people prefer to deny it, associating themselves only with that part of imaginations which is pleasant to their Ego. But, actually, these dreams and imaginations, and especially them & laquo; неприемлимая» component & mdash; key. A key to at last to see and recognize what is in ourselves. A key that at last to realize opposite poles of all our emotions and desires and to see them entirely and without illusion of duality.
But if you dare to make it... Remember the most strong and most pure feeling of love which you felt when you for the first time fell in love. That pressing, enthusiastic, boundless feeling. Also present that at the same time there is no jealousy, any desire to possess, any fear of loss, any fear of refusal, both any fear at all and mdash; because you at the same time feel the same and in the same degree from a love object which also is you (yours Anima/Animus). And it has no relation to self-admiration or narcissism, no. And to a split personality & mdash; too not. Consciousness at the same time is complete, actually, for the first time really completely as the person ceases to deny a part of, and it is not about selfish love of the Ego to the Ego, and about pure, true love between men's and a feminine of itself. And this feeling remains with you forever & mdash; because you cannot stop loving yourself any more. It is possible to live, without loving itself & mdash; all of us, unfortunately, managed it after we in the childhood were disaccustomed to accept and love itself (all of us were able to do it unconsciously). But having passed this way to integrity it is conscious, you any more never stop loving yourself.
For example if you want to punish others, it means that you want to punish yourself. But desire to punish itself cannot exist in itself & mdash; it has the second pole & mdash; Anima's desire to be punished (if we speak about the man). And this pole is not opposition to the first, on the contrary, together they make whole as two poles of a magnet make a uniform magnet. For this reason it is possible to go for years to psychologists, to do these or those practicians, and to tell one thousand times to itself: & laquo; I do not need that myself наказывать» & mdash; but it will be useless until Anima at the same time does not tell in unison: & laquo; I do not need being наказанной». But how she can make it if the man does not recognize not only the fact that his Anima wants to be punished, but even its existence?